Just like a good lipstick collection (obviously needed for a superior life experience), I think it’s important to find a good people collection.  There are some kinds of people we need in our lives…

• The Listener… what can I say?  Good ears are hard to find and we all need them!  (Beware of those really good listeners who don’t share enough of themselves to make you feel they’re invested in the relationship… you may as well be talking into a mirror - it’s too hard to be able to “give back” - which is a really important part of any relationship). 
• The Idea Generator… with his/her head in the clouds, there will never be a shortage of ridiculous (but maybe fun) things to discuss or laugh at over martinis and lattes.  It might get a bit annoying to have someone around who doesn’t live in the same reality everyone else does… still, a change of perspective can be fun sometimes.
• The Organizer… with his/her head on the ground, these people make the crazy plans happen.  And thank goodness someone does.
• The Crush… everybody should have someone who makes their heart flutter (for example: a partner, non speedo wearing neighbour, Anderson Cooper…) Heart fluttering makes all days better.
• The Rock… there’s gotta be one person you would call no matter what.  Even if you haven’t talked to them in forever, you know how much they adore you (and you them) and thus you could call them up and wherever in the world they were, they’d instantly appear knowing what you need…
• Professional Connection [cook/lawyer/doc/mechanic/plumber/makeup expert/botox provider…] Whatever you AREN’T (in a professional sense), it’s a good idea to collect some of these types of people to compliment your skills. 

But don’t forget to do what all smart lipstick collectors do… Only keep stuff & people!) that makes you feel great about yourself and fits in with your life. 

Maybe you have a red lipstick that was really, really fun for a while, but now, since you cringe at the way that the shade screams and it makes you do a double-take in the mirror, it is reduced to sitting and clogging up premium space in your bathroom drawer.  But don’t feel bad about saying good-bye to it.  You might find another red that makes you feel terrific one day.   

Or a gloss that is constantly accentuating the one thing that you don’t adore about your face?  Pitch it.  This life only has time for stuff that makes us feel really good.

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